Abram was fearful and weak-willed here. Instead of standing up for his wife and defending and protecting her, he told her to lie she was his sister so they would spare his life and treat him well for her sake. Was that not selfish? They would treat him well but at the expense of his wife’s dignity and mental health. Imagine the state Sarai was in having to endure Pharaoh’s advances and unwelcome touches just because she was trying to “protect” her husband. Lord, have mercy!
Thank God for His timely intervention because of His promise, else…. He avenged Sarai and cowardly Abram himself by inflicting Pharaoh and his household with serious diseases. (Sometimes, God acts in certain ways on our behalves not because we are that “good” but because of His faithfulness.)
There are many ways a man can behave like Abram did here. When your mother is picking on your wife and you pretend you do not hear or see anything and leave her at your mother’s mercy because you don’t want your mum to emotionally blackmail you, you are being selfish, cowardly and displaying a weak will. When your siblings or other relatives, male or female, think they can disrespect your wife and you refuse to set boundaries and tell them off and your wife has no choice than to defend herself (sometimes you even frustrate her for standing up for herself), you are behaving like Abram did. When you encourage your wife to play along with a boss or a wealthy man who is making passes at her so you people can make money off him, you are acting just like Abram did. You have a reproductive disease as a man and because you don’t want your family to know your childlessness is your fault, even though some of them have started blaming and insulting your wife for her barrenness, so you’re pushing your wife to go and get herself pregnant by another man, you are behaving like Abram did and even worse. It’s time to repent, brother. God does not take excuses. Repent!
Listen, it’s not in all cases that God does what He did for Abram and Sarai. So, you need to be determined and learn to protect your wife from predators, whether they are family or not. And as a wife too, understand that when your husband is leading you to sin against yourself, himself, against another (and against God in all these cases) that you are to obey God instead and not listen to him.
Pray as a man that God will kill the tendencies you have to expose your wife to danger and leave her to fend for herself. Pray as a woman (married or waiting for marriage) that God will kill such tendencies in your husband and help you to not listen to your husband when he is leading you into sin.
I am Ayobami Temitope Kehinde, a prolific writer. The posts here are my brainchildren and a lot of them have been featured on my Facebook wall and pages before now. I write inspirational stuff, fictions, non fictions, poems and plays and sometimes I resort to humour. You may not copy any of my posts without acknowledging me as the author. Thank you for checking up my blogs. I know you will love what I have here. I can also be found on http://randompoemsofmine.blogspot.com/, http://preciousay.blogspot.com/ and http://mycollectionofyorubahymns.blogspot.com/
A PEEK INTO MY THOUGHTS 
Abram’s Fearfulness
Text: Genesis 12:10-20
Abram was fearful and weak-willed here. Instead of standing up for his wife and defending and protecting her, he told her to lie she was his sister so they would spare his life and treat him well for her sake. Was that not selfish? They would treat him well but at the expense of his wife’s dignity and mental health. Imagine the state Sarai was in having to endure Pharaoh’s advances and unwelcome touches just because she was trying to “protect” her husband. Lord, have mercy!
Thank God for His timely intervention because of His promise, else…. He avenged Sarai and cowardly Abram himself by inflicting Pharaoh and his household with serious diseases. (Sometimes, God acts in certain ways on our behalves not because we are that “good” but because of His faithfulness.)
There are many ways a man can behave like Abram did here. When your mother is picking on your wife and you pretend you do not hear or see anything and leave her at your mother’s mercy because you don’t want your mum to emotionally blackmail you, you are being selfish, cowardly and displaying a weak will. When your siblings or other relatives, male or female, think they can disrespect your wife and you refuse to set boundaries and tell them off and your wife has no choice than to defend herself (sometimes you even frustrate her for standing up for herself), you are behaving like Abram did. When you encourage your wife to play along with a boss or a wealthy man who is making passes at her so you people can make money off him, you are acting just like Abram did. You have a reproductive disease as a man and because you don’t want your family to know your childlessness is your fault, even though some of them have started blaming and insulting your wife for her barrenness, so you’re pushing your wife to go and get herself pregnant by another man, you are behaving like Abram did and even worse. It’s time to repent, brother. God does not take excuses. Repent!
Listen, it’s not in all cases that God does what He did for Abram and Sarai. So, you need to be determined and learn to protect your wife from predators, whether they are family or not. And as a wife too, understand that when your husband is leading you to sin against yourself, himself, against another (and against God in all these cases) that you are to obey God instead and not listen to him.
Pray as a man that God will kill the tendencies you have to expose your wife to danger and leave her to fend for herself. Pray as a woman (married or waiting for marriage) that God will kill such tendencies in your husband and help you to not listen to your husband when he is leading you into sin.
© February 2024, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde
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I am Ayobami Temitope Kehinde, a prolific writer. The posts here are my brainchildren and a lot of them have been featured on my Facebook wall and pages before now. I write inspirational stuff, fictions, non fictions, poems and plays and sometimes I resort to humour. You may not copy any of my posts without acknowledging me as the author. Thank you for checking up my blogs. I know you will love what I have here. I can also be found on http://randompoemsofmine.blogspot.com/, http://preciousay.blogspot.com/ and http://mycollectionofyorubahymns.blogspot.com/