From my little knowledge of the Bible, I know these about Good Ol’ Mama Sarah:
•Her birth name was Sarai.
•She was Papa Abraham’s half sister and later got married to him.
•One day, God called to Abraham and asked him to leave his country to a place He would show him. Papa told Mama about it, and Mama despite not understanding like Papa, agreed to follow her husband wherever God would be leading them because she trusted Him who spoke to her husband.
•Mama was stunningly beautiful, so that even at 65 and later at 90, Papa was scared stiff of losing his head to Pharaoh and Abimelech respectively for her sake.
•When Papa Abraham was sore afraid of losing his life because of Mama’s striking beauty, he begged her to corroborate his half truth (half lie) that she was only his sister. Mama agreed and covered up Papa’s lie.
•God eventually delivered Sarah from Pharaoh’s and Abimelech’s clutches.
•God changed her name to Sarah.
•Mama stood on Papa’s neck until he went in to sleep with Hagar, her maid.
•When Hagar knew she was pregnant while her mistress was still barren, she began to disrespect Sarah. Sarah did not keep quiet about it. She confronted her husband. Abraham in response told her to do whatever she liked with her maid. Sarah showed Hagar pepper until she fled from her.
•She laughed in unbelief when God said she would become a mother the following year. When confronted with it, she denied it.
•She had Isaac between 90 and 91.
•After Isaac was born, Mama saw Ishmael, Hagar’s son mocking Isaac. She was distraught and nagged Abraham to send Hagar and her son out of her home.
“The son of the slavewoman will not share inheritance with my son.” She pointed, fiercely. Papa was confused.
“This Sarah sef,” he grunted when he was all by himself, “she harrassed me for a long time to sleep with her maid, now she is commanding me to get rid of her and my son, my first son.” He scratched his head and paused, almost tearing up.
“Is it not all her fault?” He lifted his eyes to heaven as if expecting God to say something. But God supported Sarah. He told Papa to listen to her. Pappy had no choice again.
•She referred to Abraham as her lord.
•She died at 127.
•Apostle Peter advised Christian women to emulate her in submitting to their husbands.
Sarah is the heroine of submission. She called her hubby lord, even Apostle Peter applauded her and commanded all Christian wives to be like her.
But let’s go through her life again. The same woman that called her husband lord was the same woman who called him out when Hagar started to despise her. It was this same woman that insisted Hagar and her son be sent away from Isaac (and glory to God, He supported her!). Note that she didn’t suggest, she commanded. You can go back to your Bible to read the story again. Whereas she it was initially who made Abraham go in to Hagar.
Sarah had her own opinions and her own voice. We hear her voice, clearly and unmuffled, throughout their story. Her voice was not hidden in Abraham’s and Abraham respected it. She was the kind of woman some men today will call stubborn. She was not a yes-woman. She had her own mind. But yet, Peter used her life to explain submission.
Yes, she also followed her husband to lie, twice. This is the part some (wo)men use to cover up their idea of how a woman should bow and scrape to her husband even if he is leading her into a furnace. The Bible does not in anyway indicate that Abraham coerced Sarah into supporting his lies or half-truths. He begged her and she accepted, most likely because she loved him and did not want to lose him. Now, that is not enough reason to preach that a woman obeys her husband to hell. To me, it showed their humanity, and it wasn’t even about submission (or the popular definition of submission). It doesn’t mean what they agreed to do was right even though God did eventually come to their rescue in both cases. If you still insist a woman ought to agree with her husband in everything then Sapphira should have been spared from destruction. After all, like Sarah, she also agreed with her husband to lie, only this time, it was to the Holy Spirit.
Finally brethren and sisthren, can you please place your definition of submission side by side with the life of Sarah, is what you call submission really submission? Remember to consider her life from start to finish.
Genesis 12, 16, 17, 18, 20, 21, and 23; 1 Peter 3:1-7
©2017, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde