I remember a chat with an acquaintance of my flatmate who came on a visit some years back. I mentioned a certain dream of mine and she whined, “You have stolen my dream, I have the same dream.” I just smiled.

Well, the kind of dream you have is not peculiar to you, many people have similar dreams. And that doesn’t mean they steal it from you. Think about it self, how can a person you don’t know from Adam steal your dream?

But as each person is unique so is his dream even if it is similar to another’s. You want to be a renown songwriter? So many others have that vision too or are already. You want to speak around the world? You are not alone in that line of thought. Just know that no matter how many similar dreams there are, the content of each dream is unique.

©2016, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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This Man That I Know


He is a Priest,
He is a King,
And He is the Lord,
This man that I know.

He made a big sacrifice for the whole world,
With His own flesh and blood,
So that sin will no longer have a hold
On as many who accept Him,
And so that they may be made right with God
And become His children.

He is a warrior who never loses any battle.
He breaks heads and fills lands with corpses.
He fights for the cause of His own,
And yes, He will rule and reign forever–
This man that I know.

©2016, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Be You

Don’t strive to be who you are not just to please people. You will eventually get enervated from pretending and ache to return to you. Why, because it hurts to not be you.

Look at it this way, whether you are you or not, some people will still form hurtful opinions about you, cook up stories about you and choose not to see whatever good you do. So why not just be you instead of going though the hell (yes, it is hell) of being who you are not?

Being you might gore some poeople’s ox, but that won’t be your problem but theirs so far you is not a sin. Anyone affected by your being yourself has issues and should deal with it. Be you.

PS: The you here is not condoning personal issues you need to work on.

©2016, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Speak Life Over Your Children

I just now remember told us about a wife of one of her older cousins, Iya Segun. Iya Segun used to sing for her son, Boda Segun, when he was a toddler like this:

“Segun a di lawyer lola o.
“Segun a di doctor lola o.”
“Segun will become a lawyer tomorrow.
“Segun will become a doctor tomorrow”

Boda Segun did not grow up to become a lawyer or a doctor, but he grew up to be a success in his chosen field. Will I even recognise the *boda if I see him today? I might, and might not. It’s been so long I saw him last.

My point? Parents, speak life over your children, even if they could frustrate sometimes. Bless them and do not curse. Speak life over them, you’ll see the dividends of those words eventually.

*Boda–a corrupt way of saying brother in Yoruba.

©2016, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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ZEPH 3:17

Sing for me, Father,
Your sweet sweet melody.
Calm me down, dear Lord,
With Your pure pure love.
Sing for me, sweet Father,
And calm me down with Your love.

Dance for me, Father,
I know You dance too.
I want to see Your matchless steps,
The ones the best of dancers cannot beat.
Dance, Father, dance,
You are the Lord of the dance.

©2016, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Above The Storm


Like an eagle,
I am rising above the storm,
My youth is being renewed
‘Cause I’m shedding old feathers for new ones.
I am pressed but not crushed,
Persecuted but not abandoned
Struck down but not destroyed.
I am sure that now it will be said of me,
“See what Yahweh has done.”

©2016, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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The Best Story Rewriter

Something about history is it is not partial. It tells your story just as it is. Hope people will not wince and curse the memory of you when they read about you in the annals. There is always an opportunity to rewrite your story so far you still have breath in your nostrils.

I know someone who is the best story rewriter. He specializes in giving people new beginnings, if they will trust Him with their lives and follow Him. He is Jesus Christ, the Righteous.

Embrace Him and embrace life (John1:4).

©2015, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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On Dumbing Down

Dear Lady of Substance,

I know a lot of ‘concerned’ people, men and women, ‘advise’ smart and intelligent single ladies to stupid down, sorry, to dumb down so they could find husbands. They tell them to hide their cars if they drive and to move out of their posh apartments into tenements (face-me-I-slap-you apartments) so men won’t feel intimidated. They counsel them to not bother to buy cars, if they don’t have already, nor furnish their apartments because men get easily intimidated by ladies of means.

I just want to let you know, my dear lady, that if you yield to such pieces of advice, you are the same as the sly and foxy guy who pretends to be all the things you want in a man so he could get you to marry him. It is called manipulation. You are being a weasel.

Dumbing down is wearing another’s personality. A man who wants that personality will be erroneously attracted to you and when he eventually realises you are not what you pretend to be, there will be clashes. Clashes because your true self is not of the same brand as his, clashes because it is birds of a feather that flock together.

So, why not stand tall and be you? You don’t need affectations to find your own type of man whose deep will automatically call out to yours without struggles. Do not settle. You deserve the best.

Yours sincerely,
Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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A Different Spirit


People of a different spirit are rare, folks like Joshua and Caleb.

Moses sent 12 men to Canaan. They all saw the same sights but their perspective was different. 10 people saw themselves as grasshoppers before the Anakites while Caleb and Joshua saw the Anakites as their bread. Calculating the percentage gives 2/12*100% = 16.7%.

What made the difference? Taking God at His word. Caleb and Joshua did not just take the promise as mere information, they owned it as God’s personal message to them. This is why they were not dismayed when they saw the giant Anakites. They knew that the One with them and who promised to give them the land was greater. This act so pleased God that He personally testified about Caleb as His servant and a man of a different spirit.

Be smart. Be like Caleb and Joshua.

 ©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Trying The Fire On Yourself

The same prayer you pray for your blood sister(s) and or your daughter(s), that she/they should be great and be everything God made her/them to be, can you sincerely pray it for your wife?

The beautiful hopes you have for her/them, do you have for your wife?

Can you imagine her/them being treated the exact way you treat your wife?

If you can’t pray and hope the same for your wife as you do your sister(s) and or daughter(s),

If you can’t imagine their husbands treating them like you treat your wife,

There is no problem.

Just know that if your sister(s) and or your daughter(s) get(s) married to a man or men like you, that prayer may not be answered or the answer may struggle to manifest,

and your hopes may not be realised.

She/they will be treated like you do your wife if married to a man or men of your brand.

Now that you have tried the fire on yourself, how about changing your ways?



©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Abigail And Nabal

Man, if you want to marry a woman who is heavily loaded, you have work to do. It is actually an insult to desire a woman of substance as wife if you yourself are not a man of valour. As a matter of fact, it is only women of substance who have yielded to desperation and family/societal pressure that will end up settling for less in a man.

So man, if you want to marry a woman full of wisdom, be sure you are not Nabal, because Nabals have nothing to give Abigails other than frustration. Nabals don’t deserve Abigails. If you want an Abigail, step up, increase your capacity.

You want a woman with depth, develop depth yourself. It will only be unfair to give pearls to pigs. Pigs don’t know the worth and usefulness of pearls. That is why shallow men have nothing but frustrations to dish out to women of depth they unfortunately or fortunately end up marrying. Like the dirty pigs, they don’t have what it takes to maintain precious things, they would rather trample them in the mud.

I beg you man, if you are a Nabal already married to an Abigail, be honest enough to admit you are a Nabal as that is the first step towards your turn-around. Work on yourself and let God work on you. Cry to the Lord for mercy, for wisdom and capacity to husband your heavily endowed wife. Read appropriate books. Seek knowlege. It is not like Nabals don’t know the Bible, but they are never the ones the Bible is talking to, the words are always for someone else. Humble yourself and let God speak to you through His word. He will help you drop the title of Nabal and move on to becoming a David, if you will be willing.

In case you are wondering who Nabal and Abigail are, read I Samuel 25 in the Bible.

©2015, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Return From Guilt Trips

If you need to rebuke or correct someone over something that you were once guilty of, do it without feeling unworthy, but do so mercifully . Do it because you don’t want another person to make the same mistake you made. A lot of times Satan takes us on guilt trips just to prevent us from rescueing the perishing and snatching them from the fire.

For example, if you were fornicating before you got married–even though you were active in your church–but repented along the way or realised your unfaithfulness to God as a married person/couple, you might feel you are not in the best position to talk to singles about fleeing sexual sins because you did not flee at a point in your life. My sister/brother, you are giving the enemy the opportunity to continue to kill, steal and destroy. God forgave you immediately you repented (if you have indeed repented and asked for God’s forgiveness) and turned a new leaf. He doesn’t count your sin against you anymore. Correct who you have to correct, rebuke and teach.

Another instance is when you have to rebuke your children over something they do wrong and you remember that you do worse things as children. Yes, you did worse things and got away with them, but that does not mean you should fold your arms and let your children do the same. Rebuke them.

These are just instances. It applies in many areas.

So, please, stop following the devil on guilt trips. Everytime he reminds you of how unworthy you are, show him the Cross and remind him of his final destination.

But if you have not repented from your evil ways, there is still room for repentance, come to Jesus today and let Him save you. Note that it is not only people who have done very ‘terrible’ things that need Jesus, you might be the most upright morally, but if you don’t have Jesus, your self-righteousness can still not save you. Only Jesus can save.

“We are all infected and impure with sin. When we display our righteous deeds, they are nothing but filthy rags. Like autumn leaves, we wither and fall, and our sins sweep us away like the wind.” Isaiah 64:8 (NLT)

©2015, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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On Yoking

Lady, no matter how confident and strong you are, if you yoke yourself together in a romantic relationship with a man whose idea of manhood is to bring a woman under, your confidence will start to erode and corrode gradually. It might not be so obvious at the beginning, but it is happening. It will keep eroding and corroding until you find the essence of your being tied around him. You might think you can handle his chauvinistic mindsets by dialogue. But dialogue cannot change such a person. It takes a total overhauling of his mind to fix his mindsets and you are not the one to do that.

While you are trying to dialogue, you are already losing yourself without knowing, little by little, you are becoming the image he wants. You will have reduced to a half, or a quarter or an eighth or even a zeroth (I just coined that usage for zeroth now) of yourself when you ought to be 1, a whole.

We know the Maker’s blueprint is 1+1=1. But in this case it is 1+1/2 or 1+ 1/4 or 1+1/8 or 1+1/16 or 1+ any other fraction or 1+0/1=1, if you end up marrying him. If you do not end up marrying, good for you, but you will need to learn to remember who you are again, as you will have become a shadow of your God-created self.

I have understood this truth for so long. I also experienced it. I didn’t have to experience it (and you don’t have to, too, be wary) but I took a foolish step sometimes ago. Looking back and analysing, I had become “idakuda” to a degree. I had not fully lost myself but the process had begun and I am talking about within just a few months here. But glory to God and thanks to certain people around me, I made it out early enough. It wasn’t that early, in fact it was almost getting late, but it was early enough.

©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Just like Jacob,
He came.
Girded in his garments,
Versed well in how he talks.

“I am he, I am he!”
He proclaimed.
“Everything you want in him makes me,
Can’t you see?”

But he couldn’t act for long.
From time to time he got carried away.
For he spilt out words
That revealed his true self.

But I still did not see well.
Although deep down I was confused.
“I know he is not like this,
What happened?”

All the things I know about him,
Truths that I am sure of,
Which appeared to be there at first
Were nowhere to be found.

My values were questioned.
I was frustrated for my standards.
How dare me have ideologies and principles?
Impossible! What an affront to him!

Then came the complication,
And the manipulations doubled.
The rope tightened,
Every door locked.

It at last  became obvious he was a weasel.
I was forcefully rescued from his teeth.
The snare was broken.
And I was free, free indeed.

©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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