A Different Spirit


People of a different spirit are rare, folks like Joshua and Caleb.

Moses sent 12 men to Canaan. They all saw the same sights but their perspective was different. 10 people saw themselves as grasshoppers before the Anakites while Caleb and Joshua saw the Anakites as their bread. Calculating the percentage gives 2/12*100% = 16.7%.

What made the difference? Taking God at His word. Caleb and Joshua did not just take the promise as mere information, they owned it as God’s personal message to them. This is why they were not dismayed when they saw the giant Anakites. They knew that the One with them and who promised to give them the land was greater. This act so pleased God that He personally testified about Caleb as His servant and a man of a different spirit.

Be smart. Be like Caleb and Joshua.

 ©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Trying The Fire On Yourself

The same prayer you pray for your blood sister(s) and or your daughter(s), that she/they should be great and be everything God made her/them to be, can you sincerely pray it for your wife?

The beautiful hopes you have for her/them, do you have for your wife?

Can you imagine her/them being treated the exact way you treat your wife?

If you can’t pray and hope the same for your wife as you do your sister(s) and or daughter(s),

If you can’t imagine their husbands treating them like you treat your wife,

There is no problem.

Just know that if your sister(s) and or your daughter(s) get(s) married to a man or men like you, that prayer may not be answered or the answer may struggle to manifest,

and your hopes may not be realised.

She/they will be treated like you do your wife if married to a man or men of your brand.

Now that you have tried the fire on yourself, how about changing your ways?



©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Abigail And Nabal

Man, if you want to marry a woman who is heavily loaded, you have work to do. It is actually an insult to desire a woman of substance as wife if you yourself are not a man of valour. As a matter of fact, it is only women of substance who have yielded to desperation and family/societal pressure that will end up settling for less in a man.

So man, if you want to marry a woman full of wisdom, be sure you are not Nabal, because Nabals have nothing to give Abigails other than frustration. Nabals don’t deserve Abigails. If you want an Abigail, step up, increase your capacity.

You want a woman with depth, develop depth yourself. It will only be unfair to give pearls to pigs. Pigs don’t know the worth and usefulness of pearls. That is why shallow men have nothing but frustrations to dish out to women of depth they unfortunately or fortunately end up marrying. Like the dirty pigs, they don’t have what it takes to maintain precious things, they would rather trample them in the mud.

I beg you man, if you are a Nabal already married to an Abigail, be honest enough to admit you are a Nabal as that is the first step towards your turn-around. Work on yourself and let God work on you. Cry to the Lord for mercy, for wisdom and capacity to husband your heavily endowed wife. Read appropriate books. Seek knowlege. It is not like Nabals don’t know the Bible, but they are never the ones the Bible is talking to, the words are always for someone else. Humble yourself and let God speak to you through His word. He will help you drop the title of Nabal and move on to becoming a David, if you will be willing.

In case you are wondering who Nabal and Abigail are, read I Samuel 25 in the Bible.

©2015, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Return From Guilt Trips

If you need to rebuke or correct someone over something that you were once guilty of, do it without feeling unworthy, but do so mercifully . Do it because you don’t want another person to make the same mistake you made. A lot of times Satan takes us on guilt trips just to prevent us from rescueing the perishing and snatching them from the fire.

For example, if you were fornicating before you got married–even though you were active in your church–but repented along the way or realised your unfaithfulness to God as a married person/couple, you might feel you are not in the best position to talk to singles about fleeing sexual sins because you did not flee at a point in your life. My sister/brother, you are giving the enemy the opportunity to continue to kill, steal and destroy. God forgave you immediately you repented (if you have indeed repented and asked for God’s forgiveness) and turned a new leaf. He doesn’t count your sin against you anymore. Correct who you have to correct, rebuke and teach.

Another instance is when you have to rebuke your children over something they do wrong and you remember that you do worse things as children. Yes, you did worse things and got away with them, but that does not mean you should fold your arms and let your children do the same. Rebuke them.

These are just instances. It applies in many areas.

So, please, stop following the devil on guilt trips. Everytime he reminds you of how unworthy you are, show him the Cross and remind him of his final destination.

But if you have not repented from your evil ways, there is still room for repentance, come to Jesus today and let Him save you. Note that it is not only people who have done very ‘terrible’ things that need Jesus, you might be the most upright morally, but if you don’t have Jesus, your self-righteousness can still not save you. Only Jesus can save.

“We are all infected and impure with sin. When we display our righteous deeds, they are nothing but filthy rags. Like autumn leaves, we wither and fall, and our sins sweep us away like the wind.” Isaiah 64:8 (NLT)

©2015, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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On Yoking

Lady, no matter how confident and strong you are, if you yoke yourself together in a romantic relationship with a man whose idea of manhood is to bring a woman under, your confidence will start to erode and corrode gradually. It might not be so obvious at the beginning, but it is happening. It will keep eroding and corroding until you find the essence of your being tied around him. You might think you can handle his chauvinistic mindsets by dialogue. But dialogue cannot change such a person. It takes a total overhauling of his mind to fix his mindsets and you are not the one to do that.

While you are trying to dialogue, you are already losing yourself without knowing, little by little, you are becoming the image he wants. You will have reduced to a half, or a quarter or an eighth or even a zeroth (I just coined that usage for zeroth now) of yourself when you ought to be 1, a whole.

We know the Maker’s blueprint is 1+1=1. But in this case it is 1+1/2 or 1+ 1/4 or 1+1/8 or 1+1/16 or 1+ any other fraction or 1+0/1=1, if you end up marrying him. If you do not end up marrying, good for you, but you will need to learn to remember who you are again, as you will have become a shadow of your God-created self.

I have understood this truth for so long. I also experienced it. I didn’t have to experience it (and you don’t have to, too, be wary) but I took a foolish step sometimes ago. Looking back and analysing, I had become idakuda* to a degree. I had not fully lost myself but the process had begun and I am talking about within just a few months here. But glory to God and thanks to certain people around me, I made it out early enough. It wasn’t that early, in fact it was almost getting late, but it was early enough.

*idakuda: a Yoruba word meaning another thing in a negative sense

©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Just like Jacob,
He came.
Girded in his garments,
Versed well in how he talks.

“I am he, I am he!”
He proclaimed.
“Everything you want in him makes me,
Can’t you see?”

But he couldn’t act for long.
From time to time he got carried away.
For he spilt out words
That revealed his true self.

But I still did not see well.
Although deep down I was confused.
“I know he is not like this,
What happened?”

All the things I know about him,
Truths that I am sure of,
Which appeared to be there at first
Were nowhere to be found.

My values were questioned.
I was frustrated for my standards.
How dare me have ideologies and principles?
Impossible! What an affront to him!

Then came the complication,
And the manipulations doubled.
The rope tightened,
Every door locked.

It at last  became obvious he was a weasel.
I was forcefully rescued from his teeth.
The snare was broken.
And I was free, free indeed.

©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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Preaching Prosperity Is Very Scriptural


With me are riches and honor, enduring wealth and prosperity.
Proverbs 8:18 NIV

For those who say preaching prosperity is unscriptural, I beg to disagree. You can tackle the lack of balance and abuse in the approach of many preachers who preach prosperity, but to say it is unscriptural is another heresy. Don’t fall into heresy while trying to rebuke heresy.
One of the benefits of wisdom is prosperity. Abraham, God’s friend and the Father of faith was wealthy. Job, as righteous as he was was very wealthy. Mary and Martha, two of the women that were companions of Jesus, were wealthy. Prosperity is not evil at all in itself, only that when we preach prosperity we need to ensure people are pointed back to getting it while seeking first God’s kingdom and its righteousness. When people are taught to know the Lord and live for Him, they will be righteous and pleasing to God even while being rich and wealthy.

©2018, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde

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