Man, if you want to marry a woman who is heavily loaded, you have work to do. It is actually an insult to desire a woman of substance as wife if you yourself are not a man of valour. As a matter of fact, it is only women of substance who have yielded to desperation and family/societal pressure that will end up settling for less in a man.
So man, if you want to marry a woman full of wisdom, be sure you are not Nabal, because Nabals have nothing to give Abigails other than frustration. Nabals don’t deserve Abigails. If you want an Abigail, step up, increase your capacity.
You want a woman with depth, develop depth yourself. It will only be unfair to give pearls to pigs. Pigs don’t know the worth and usefulness of pearls. That is why shallow men have nothing but frustrations to dish out to women of depth they unfortunately or fortunately end up marrying. Like the dirty pigs, they don’t have what it takes to maintain precious things, they would rather trample them in the mud.
I beg you man, if you are a Nabal already married to an Abigail, be honest enough to admit you are a Nabal as that is the first step towards your turn-around. Work on yourself and let God work on you. Cry to the Lord for mercy, for wisdom and capacity to husband your heavily endowed wife. Read appropriate books. Seek knowlege. It is not like Nabals don’t know the Bible, but they are never the ones the Bible is talking to, the words are always for someone else. Humble yourself and let God speak to you through His word. He will help you drop the title of Nabal and move on to becoming a David, if you will be willing.
In case you are wondering who Nabal and Abigail are, read I Samuel 25 in the Bible.
©2015, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde