Several Christian men are quick to open their mouths and declare they want to marry a Proverbs 31 woman. Like seriously? Do you think you have the capacity to marry such a resourceful woman? Did you ever notice each time you read that passage that she is a successful woman, a woman of means?
You, can you give a woman the full support needed to accomplish her dreams and goals? Won’t you feel threatened when her business starts booming or when her lofty dreams begin to materialise? Won’t you demoralise her through your insensitive words and unreasonable demands?
The Proverbs 31 husband is secure in himself enough to let his wife pursue her goals, enough to confidently declare that her works should praise her at the gates and that she should be honoured for the works of her hands. She has peace at home, an enabling environment that gives her the motivation to go for her dreams. You, won’t you go awry and gloomy, doing everything to cut her to size when her work praises her at the gates, when everyone starts singing her praise? Note also the question asked in verse 10 about who can find a virtuous woman because her price is far above rubies. Understand that precious things are not committed to the hands of just anybody because it is not everyone that understands how to keep and treasure precious gifts. That informs why her husband is not a mere man, he sits at the gates! He is well respected!
You see, if you don’t work on that mentality you carry around about women, if you still find yourself getting intimidated by successful women, don’t look forward to being respected when you sit with the elders at the gate. There won’t even be space for you among the elders not to talk of sitting in their midst. Don’t bother looking for a strong woman to marry.
Yes, that woman described in Proverbs 31 is a woman who knows her onions. She is strong and knows what she wants in life. If you fraudulently end up marrying a woman like that, you will crash under her weight. Unfortunately, you won’t be the only one to crash, your crash will pull her down too. (Actually, a woman like that will not marry just any man except if she lets desperation deaden her sense of reasoning and intelligence.) So, please do yourself a favour, marry a woman like yourself, afterall, birds of a feather flock together.
©2015, Ayobami Temitope Kehinde